How to Choose a Funeral Poem or Reading

Choosing a fitting poem or reading can bring comfort and meaning to a service—it’s an opportunity

to reflect a loved one’s spirit in words.

1. Reflect Their Personality

Were they witty and light, reflective and spiritual, or filled with love for family and nature? Pick something that resonates with their essence. A funny but sentimental piece might suit someone known for laughter.

2. Match the Tone of the Service

Traditional funeral? Consider classic poems like “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” or “When Great Trees Fall”. For a celebration of life, something more uplifting or humorous could be appropriate.

3. Look for Personal Connections

Think of a phrase or line that reminds you of them: perhaps a beloved saying, a line from their favourite book, or a verse from a poem they quoted often.

4. Choose Length Wisely

Keep readings relatively short—especially if multiple speakers are involved. A poem with a few stanzas or a short reflection works well.

5. Gain Approval from Family

Before finalizing, confirm the family is comfortable with the tone and content of the selection. Respect cultural or religious sensitivities—some themes or phrases may not suit everyone.